Finding true love isn’t easy to do, but it’s even harder when you let other people’s expectations affect your decisions. Ditching your “shoulds” for “wants” can get you in touch with what you really want when it comes to romance.
Life is full of “shoulds.” On a daily basis, everyone thinks “I should do this, or I should do that,” but those “shoulds” are often tied to what you believe other people expect from you. That might be okay for some things, but not when it comes to looking for love. Andrea Syrtash, dating expert and author of He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing): How to Find Love Where You Least Expect It, suggests you switch up your vocabulary to get a better perspective on who you are and what you really want:
I hate the word “should.” Don’t “should” all over yourself. Often times, when we say the word “should,” it’s somebody else’s “should.” We’re thinking about what our parents would think or what our friends or community would think. But in fact when we quiet those “should voices” we can really listen to what we want… replacing the word “should” with “want” makes us more authentic and happier.
When you feel like you “should” do something or be with someone, it can go against what you know will actually bring you true joy. For example, instead of giving into other people’s expectations and thinking “I should be with this person,” do what you want and think “I want to be with that person,” even if it might catch others off guard. Forget what other people might think, do what makes you happy, and be the real you. Or as Syrtash puts it, “Date somebody you would be with if nobody else was looking.” You can learn more at the link below.